advice to a friend

An Odd But True Story

Change CAN happen in an instant. Here is how I explain that to my friends...

A number of years ago I worked in a crowded office for a huge global corporation. One day I turned up for work just like any other day but something was 
different.

Chris, a guy who worked in the same department, had changed overnight - as if by magic. He was walking differently, talking differently and he even looked a 
little different.

From my desk I could hear him speaking on the phone and his voice had taken on a different quality - he spoke with greater authority and certainty. And, his 
voice was deeper, fuller and more resonant.

This was all very strange.

Chris walked past my desk a few times and the way he moved had changed. For some reason he stood straighter and moved with greater purpose than he used to.

Even weirder. His face looked a little different. He seemed more relaxed and he was smiling and laughing more than usual.

Power And Confidence

Interestingly, the people he spoke to seemed very attentive to whatever he was saying and happy to do as he suggested.

What had caused this instant overnight change?

I discovered later in the day that he had got a promotion! He now had a new job title and new duties. 

Truly Amazing! 

A change in self perception, not the job change, had changed his behavior in a flash.

Now, the point of this story is that a change in how you view yourself can change how you think, how you 
feel and how you behave... in an instant.

Change your self image and your behavior will change to reflect that. And when you behave with greater 
confidence and self belief others become more responsive to what you say. Why? Because your 
communication has greater authority.

Pay Attention To This Point.

The slow, difficult way to change how you deal with others is to wait, nervously, for a few years in 
the hope of a promotion like Chris did.

Change how you feel about yourself and you will have a warm inner glow of self-appreciation that draws 
people to you. When you feel great about yourself it is almost impossible not to be confident, dynamic and happy.