the wall that need to be broken

The Berlin Wall was a physical structure that separated 
people and encouraged the mistaken belief that those on the 
other side were different and even to be avoided.

A similar wall can be found in your own world once you open 
your eyes to how you are living...

We create barriers that do not exist outside of our own 
minds. We see some people as better than us and some as 
inferior, we look for approval from our peers while 
rejecting those who do not share our values and beliefs.

How can you tear down the walls that keep you separated 
from the wonderful people in your world?

1. Look for what we all have in common

Everyone shares the human condition. This means that 
regardless of who you are dealing with: you know with 
absolute certainty that the person has dreams, hopes, fears 
and worries just like you do.

Even the most confident, self-assured super successful 
people have worries about the future and regrets about the 
past.

We are all alike. Bear this in mind and you will have more 
compassion for those you meet and less fear about being 
yourself.


2. Look behind the curtain

Don´t be fooled by appearances. That guy driving across 
town in a new Bentley may well be days away from 
bankruptcy; the beautiful woman shopping in the mall may 
not have had a date in months because guys find her 
intimidating.

Even smiling extroverts worry about looking stupid or 
saying the wrong thing. Sometimes they don´t know when to 
stop talking and worry about that too!

My point is this... look for the real person - not what you 
see on the surface. Listen very carefully to how people 
express themselves and you will hear subtle changes in 
voice tone that reveals their true feelings.

Think of others as kids playing the game of being adults. 
We are all dressed up to look like serious adults but deep 
down we wonder if someone is going to notice we are winging 
it!

3. See others as you

When talking to people remind yourself that at the deepest 
level that other person is the same as you.

This is absolutely true at the quantum level and at the 
physical, mental and emotional levels apart from minor 
differences.

We are more alike than we are different. You can even 
remind yourself of this by using the mantra "I am you". 
Repeat the mantra silently to yourself when you are in the 
company of others and you will find you get a deeper 
rapport with anyone you talk to.